This will be a step-by-step guide (podcast, too) detailing what I do to manifest intentionally. Because this is so layered, I will occasionally rely on other coaches to explain some of those details. I will link their videos for you to review.
Intentional manifesting is self-empowerment and self-care. It gets to the root of who we are and realizing our power.
I’ve been studying intentional manifesting for five years and figured out how to do it in a way that works for me. I intend that it will help you figure out the best way for you to curate the life you desire.
My gauge for success is not about the “things” I’ve manifested–of which there are many. It’s how I feel inside. Manifesting is an inside job.
Manifesting coaches tell us to “Live in the end,” “Act as if,” “Live in the wish fulfilled.” I understood these concepts logically but only recently discovered how to implement and practice them effectively.
Before I get into the steps…
Do NOT focus on the “things” you want to manifest. If you want a house, do not focus on a house. Focus on HOW YOU FEEL after living in your dream home for over a year. If you want to be in a romantic relationship, do not focus on the other person. Focus on HOW YOU FEEL in a happy relationship. Do NOT make it about the money or the other person. If you are manifesting good health, focus on HOW YOU FEEL as a healthy person. The “things” can be props in your process, but they shouldn’t be your main focus. Your main focus should always be you–how you feel when you’ve achieved your desire and when it feels natural to you in your imagination.
Self-concept plays a vital role in manifesting the life you desire. What we accept as truth from birth until seven years old is a program that was downloaded into our subconscious. Our subconscious beliefs will always trump our conscious mind. In other words, if you want more money but believe you can’t have wealth for any reason, your subconscious belief will win out every time.
I highly recommend watching this video so that you can address your deep-seated beliefs and override them with the steps I’m providing here.
How to Change Your Self Concept: A Definitive Guide
Step One: Set your intention. Clarify your desire. Figure out exactly what you want and why you want it.
The three top desires are wealth, love, and good health. But of course, you are the one who decides exactly what you want.
(For the sake of explaining this as clearly as possible, I will offer an example and use it throughout this guide. If my example is your desire, it’s extremely important to personalize this so it feels natural to you. You want this to feel easy and natural. No forcing. No effort to convince yourself of anything. None of this should feel like a chore.)
Intention: Let’s say you desire $1 million because you want to buy a new home, a new car, and you want to hire a money manager to help you invest the rest for retirement to build your wealth. (Be very clear on why you want the money and what you will do with it.)
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Step Two: Cement your intention by feeling it real in your imagination.
This can be achieved in many ways: visualization, imaginal acts, scripting, and/or listing.
Visualizing: Neville Goddard talks about creating a scene and visualizing it while in the State Akin To Sleep (SATS)--which is self-hypnosis. Create a scene before you get into SATS that you’ve had your desire for a while and it feels natural. Make sure the scene is in FIRST PERSON–through your own eyes. If you want $1 million, a scene could look like this: You’re in your dream kitchen in your dream home. You’re doing something mundane like chopping vegetables for dinner. Notice what that kitchen looks like–notice the decor and the appliances. Is there a window? Is the floor hardwood, tile, or laminate? Are the counters marble or granite? Feel yourself wiping down the countertops and thinking how much you love your kitchen. Imagine you’re barefoot and can feel the floor under your feet. Try and make the scene as real as possible using your senses. Imagine smelling and tasting the food you’re making. Feel how content you are and how much you enjoy your home. Take it all in and really feel what it’s like to be there and live in that house.
Another way to visualize: Imagine having a conversation with someone you know after you’ve achieved your intention. Example: Your best friend says to you, “Congratulations on getting that million dollars and buying your dream home. It’s gorgeous. You seem really happy.” You reply, “Thank you, I got everything I wanted. It feels great. I’m really happy with my life.” Feel it real.
If your visualization is less than a minute, loop it until it feels real to you. If it’s a longer visual, do it until the scene feels real to you. There is no rule about how short or long your visualization has to be. I’ve done both and both have worked for me.
No matter what it is, have a scene in mind before you start. Have fun with it. Don’t get all crazy and feel you have to be perfect. There’s no wrong way to do it. It may take a little time. Be patient and do it until you feel like you’ve had that experience. It may take a week or a month. BUT HAVE FUN. Don’t force anything.
Neville recommends visualizing as you fall asleep, but it doesn’t matter what time of day or night you do it, as long as you do it in a relaxed, sleepy state. Do not immediately launch into your visualization. Take the time to relax your entire body. This is a great guided meditation to help you get there. (Don’t worry if you fall asleep. Just persist and do it again the following day.)
When your body is totally relaxed, start the scene. Feel it real, just like you do when you daydream. Once you feel you’ve had the experience in your imagination, you don’t have to do it again unless you want to do it because it feels good. Don’t feel you have to keep visualizing it. It’s not a transactional act. It’s not a chore. The purpose of experiencing it in imagination is to get you to a place where it feels natural for you to have that experience in your physical reality. You’ll know it worked when the visualization feels like a real-life memory.
Remember, we manifest experiences. Things are the byproducts. Your focus must always be on how it makes you feel. Your focus must always be on you and not the thing(s) you desire. The things you desire are the props in your visual acts.
Imaginal act: This way of cementing your intention is like planning a trip to the grocery store. You think: I need to go to the store and get apples, milk, and bread. You don’t plan out where you park or notice every detail of what’s on the store shelves. You have an overall picture in your head of your intention. In the case of $1 million, you might see nothing more than a flash in your imagination of living in your dream home with your new car in the driveway and an image of your investments and savings account–maybe a quick imagining of your online bank statement showing your savings/investments. It’s an understanding of exactly what you want and why you want it, but it’s not about creating detailed scenes and pretending you’re living them. You know what you want, why you want it, and how it makes you feel when you are experiencing it in your mind–just like a trip to the grocery store. The most important part of this is clarity: what you want and deciding that it is your intention.
Scripting: The act of writing about experiencing your desire in first person–like a diary or a letter to someone. Example: I’ve been living in my dream home for just over a year and I’ve never been happier. It was surprising for me to learn that I love taking care of my lawn and I’ve even planted a garden in the backyard. Being a homeowner gives me a sense of accomplishment and pride. My neighborhood is safe, beautiful, and I love taking walks after dinner. My neighbors are awesome, and they also have a dog that gets along with mine. I love that I can trust them to watch my dog when I go on vacation and they trust me to watch theirs. I just checked my investment portfolio and I earned over $5k this month! Woo Hoo! My money manager is fantastic. They have proven to be trustworthy and have helped me build wealth for retirement. (This is obviously a generic example, but personalize it so it feels natural to you. Remember to include things like having nice neighbors and other details that make life easier because you may get your dream home, but neighbors could be rude or loud. Get detailed and have fun with it.)
List Example:
My House:
Two story
Nice, quiet neighbors on either side
Hardwood floors
Two-car garage - holds my dream car and has great storage
Big backyard
Swimming pool
Great school district
(You get the gist.)
Step Three: Controlling Your Thoughts (This is huge and made all the difference for me.)
This step is ongoing and is the key to what’s shifted my internal world.
Your dominant thoughts manifest your physical 3D reality. You manifest who you’re being, what you believe is possible, and what you believe about yourself. Take the focus off of the things you want and put them on how you feel after imagining living that experience for a year or two–as if it’s your normal, natural way of being.
With the $1 million desire example–It’s been a year or two and you live in your dream home, you drive your dream car, and your investments are building wealth. It’s your normal. It all feels natural to you. It’s a lazy Sunday morning and you’re in your backyard enjoying a cup of coffee. How are you feeling? Make a list of how it all feels.
Grateful
Content
Abundant
Financially free
Relaxed
Relieved
I live my life the way I choose
Excited (about upcoming vacations or projects)
Happy (Because you can help friends and family if/when they need it)
Leaving a nest egg for your children
Like a winner
Like the universe has your back
(Again, you get the gist. Make your own list and feel free to add it to it as often as you see fit. I add to mine all the time.)
Turn all of those into casual, conversational affirmations, and then repeat them as internal dialogue thoughts. The ideal time to affirm is when you first wake up, when you’re falling asleep, and when you’re engaging in mundane tasks like walking the dog, doing the dishes, or driving a familiar route. You always have an internal dialogue going on, and it’s mostly on auto-pilot. Be aware of it. We generally think the same things over and over every day without even realizing it. We’re all different, but most of us think limiting thoughts that are counter to our desires–like focusing on what we don’t want, replaying arguments over and over, things that make us feel angry, petty, fearful, doubtful, and how impossible things may feel.
When your mood is indifferent or positive, casually affirm. Affirm in your head or say them out loud if you like to talk to yourself. I do both but when they’re out loud, I make sure I’m alone, lol. I prefer to come from I am as opposed to I feel. That’s my preference because feeling states can be fleeting. I see I am states as permanent.
Make it natural to you and it should sound something like this: I’m so grateful. I’m abundant. I’m content. I love my home. Thank you universe for my beautiful, abundant life. I’m so relieved. I’m building wealth. I’m confident about handling my wealth. I’m the luckiest person alive. I trust myself. I trust the universe. I’m a winner.
When affirming, do not try to convince yourself of anything. Do not force yourself to affirm if you're in a bad mood. Wait until you're feeling indifferent. Do not try to feel it real unless you naturally do. The primary goal is to stop the negative, limited thoughts and to put your focus on how you would prefer to experience life.
You may feel nothing for a while. When I started doing this, I felt nothing for about three weeks. I affirmed with little or no internal emotion. I affirmed casually as if I felt it. In other words, affirm in a tone that indicates you believe it even if you don’t. Eventually, I felt what I was affirming but in a natural, soft way. When I affirm, I’m relieved, I feel that relief for about one or two seconds. You’ve been relieved and you know how it feels. When it starts to happen naturally, embody it for just a second. (On a scale from 1-10, the relief I feel when I affirm in a general, casual way is usually between 3-5. It’s not a big deal. I don’t force anything and I’m not looking outside of myself for evidence to feel anything. It all happened naturally and automatically for me.)
The way you feel is an indicator of where you’re focusing your attention. If you’re focusing on fear or doubt, you probably don’t feel great. Much like our bodies feel physical pain as a way to alert us that something is wrong and needs attention, negative emotions make you feel angry, sad, sick, and tired. Use how you feel about what you’re thinking as your guide.
Start to see those limiting thoughts and beliefs as trolls sucking away your happiness. It’s important to have feelings and acknowledge them, but there is no need to dwell and stay in them day after day. All of those feelings are natural, and they won’t halt your desires from playing out unless you spend more than 50 percent of your time dwelling on them and believe they will halt your desires. Life can be painful and messy, and feeling those feelings are normal. It’s up to you how long you choose to persist in those feelings. Remember, your dominant thoughts and focus create your state of being. Your state of being manifests in physical reality. Feel what you need to feel, do what needs to be done to take care of business, and then start the casual affirmations when your feelings are in a state of indifference.
Here are two videos explaining how to get to indifference:
How I Healed From A VERY Suspicious Mole With Robotic Affirmations
How To REALLY Dissolve Unwanted 3D Circumstances…
Affirming is a technique. Techniques do not attract your desires. Techniques are important tools to help you get into the state of the wish fulfilled. Our state of being is what manifests. (I repeat this because repetition is how habits are formed.)
When I started this practice, my mood improved immediately–even before I felt the affirmations. It’s important to note that I do not see myself as trying to manifest. I affirm to get into a state of being.
About three weeks in, my inner world started shifting. I became less likely to react intensely to upsetting things in my 3D reality. I did react when upsetting things happened, but I refused to dwell on them. If something upset me, even if it was a very upsetting event, I allowed myself to have all the feelings and told myself–while it was happening–that it was okay to feel that way and that I could still manifest my desires. I knew the negative feelings wouldn’t last. I didn’t resist it by hating what was happening and focusing on how much I hated it. I accepted what I was feeling, even when I didn’t like it, and I allowed those unfavorable feelings to pass through me. That alone made the upsetting events slightly easier to experience because I decided they were not going to define who I am, or what happens in my life, and most importantly, that those negative feelings were not obstacles to my desires.
Practice the affirmations daily and you will find that it gets better and easier over time.
One thing you can affirm when things are not going your way is: Everything is happening the way it is supposed to. Even if it appears the exact opposite of what you desire is unfolding, choose to see it as something necessary for you to get to your desired result. Do not choose to see it as proof you can’t manifest what you want…because your beliefs are what manifest.
This video by Athena Raven is a great example. She desired a certain kind of car. The car she was driving at the time caught fire and was destroyed. She was obviously upset. But that upsetting event was the bridge to getting her dream car. Sometimes the bridge to what we want is rocky and scary. I now choose to see anything on my path as a necessary part of my journey no matter if I like it or not. I refuse to accept that the unfavorable experiences are the end of my story–I see them as part of the process. I don't see them as glitches, or snags, or tests. I don’t need to know why they’re happening. The point of choosing to see upsetting or unfavorable events as necessary occurrences is to get you into a state of being that aligns with your desires.
Do not try to affirm when you’re upset. If you find yourself spiraling–uncomfortable and sabotaging thoughts seem to be dive-bombing your brain (we’ve all been there)–you need to get to a place of indifference. This can be achieved in a variety of ways. You can list all of the 50 states in alphabetical order. You can focus on your breathing and notice the feeling of the air hitting the inside of your nose. Play a song that you know the lyrics to and sing along. Repeat a calming mantra. The goal is to distract yourself from the spiraling. Do it until the uncomfortable thoughts stop and you feel indifferent. You may still feel down or in a bad mood. That’s okay, but when you’re in that mood, try not to dwell and repeat negative thoughts. Accept your mood and put your focus on a task or some form of activity or entertainment–anything that keeps you from dwelling on thoughts that are not serving your desired state. Know that it will pass. It always does. It might take some time. Maybe an afternoon or maybe a whole day. Be patient and kind to yourself. When you feel stronger, start the casual affirmations.
If what you desire feels consequential–something life-changing–I find it’s best to not affirm that thing. Do steps one and two and when affirming, focus on the general, natural feeling of being that version of you who lives that experience. (Affirm: I’m relieved. I’m abundant. I’m content. Don’t affirm: I’m a millionaire. I’m rich. I have a million dollars.) Telling yourself you have $1 million when you don’t can feel delusional and can cause resistance. It can be easier to feel abundant or content.
Do not affirm in a transactional way. Don’t affirm A to get B. Affirmations are a tool to get you into a desired state of being. Who you are being internally is what manifests. Be that version of yourself for a few seconds here and there.
DO NOT BE DOUBLE-MINDED–which means feeling it real in your imagination and then constantly noticing it’s not in your physical world and/or focusing on doubt and why it won’t or can’t happen. Being double-minded can interfere with and halt your desire. Again, focusing on feeling abundant or grateful in a general way is easier than believing you have $1 million when your bank account says otherwise.
That’s why you make a list of how you feel once that experience has been achieved in your imagination. If the intention feels big to you, focusing on it all the time can lead to a feeling of attachment and you want to be as detached as possible. That’s why I recommend affirming in a general way–-embodying the feelings rather than focusing on the things. It’s fine to keep the desire, but you don’t want to feel desperate or needy.
Practicing this every day will lead to a shift. I have figured out that while there are specific things I'd like to experience (my intentions), I know that because I now think differently–I’ve let go of limiting beliefs and refuse to feed my insecurities and doubts–I will see changes in my 3D.
You have ZERO control over how it all plays out. You have ZERO control over the time involved and you have ZERO control over your physical reality. Never look to physical reality for proof of your intentions until they have played out. You control 100 percent of how you think, and how you think creates your state of being. You want at least 51% of your thoughts and focus to be on what you would prefer.
Doubts are not your enemy. Doubts and fear are part of the human experience. They keep you safe and alive. It’s fine to acknowledge them–even thank them–but let them pass and DO NOT DWELL.
Finally, this video by Missy Rene is one of the best manifesting breakdowns I’ve heard and it’s what inspired me to write this blog and record the accompanying podcast. I know that before I started practicing my way of affirming, I would have been confused on how to change my subconscious (My step 3 is how I override any lingering subconscious beliefs.). Listen to her video and then my podcast should provide a clear picture to anyone struggling with being double-minded and all the confusion of how to get and stay into a state that manifests what you prefer to experience.
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